Celia's Story
Posted Sept. 12, 2005
Well here I go with my story. I am all
for having the ability to have a family, no matter how
we do it. I was married for 5 years and trying to conceive
was just a nightmare. No matter what time of day or
what cycle, it seemed like it wasn't going to happen.
I found that really odd, simply because I had been pregnant
previously and had a normal birth. My husband already
had 2 other children from his previous marriage.
So off I went to the doctors for a smear
and all the other stuff we ladies need to do, the doctor
could see no reason why I could fail. He referred me
to a OBGYN, for further discussions. My husband encouraged
me to go.
After more testing he (the obgyn) suggested
that I have a procedure called a cryotherapy*. Still
nothing, so it was time for my husband to be checked.
Bingo, we found the problem. He had no sperm whatsoever.
I was totally shocked. We opted for donor
sperm, had a lot of talks about whether to go ahead
with it or not and whether to tell the child as he/she
got older.
We went on overtime and had 3 children
via donor, the eldest is now 16 and the youngest 11.
Sadly to say, our marriage broke down.
I discovered medical records showing that my husband
had had a vasectomy 9 yrs prior to meeting me.
He left that bit out, I guess...
Anyway I have 3 wonderful kids. Two of
the children have known for a while how they got here,
but the youngest did not. I informed her tonight and
explained it the best way I could.
I was astonished by her response. She
told me she was picked out and not a mistake. Pheww!
I wouldnt change anything if I had to
do this again. I am now remarried but I had a hysterectomy
last year so no more children for me. The best thing
of all is that my new husband now wishes to adopt the
children, and again their response was clearly, "Geez
mum, picked twice!"
Am I a lucky mum or what :-)?
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*About Cryotherapy:
Cryotherapy is performed on a woman's
cervix after a biopsy confirms cervical dysplasia or
condyloma. It is performed on an outpatient basis and
takes approximately ten minutes.
During cryotherapy, a probe is placed
on the cervix and cooled to a temperature below freezing.
The probe is then warmed and the process is repeated.
Once freezing of the cervix is done, the probe is removed
from the cervix.
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