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Elizabeth's Story
Posted Nov 4, 2008

After 3 yrs of marriage and trying to conceive all of that time and having never used birth control, my husband and I sought advice from my OB/GYN who referred me to a fertility specialist. We went through all of the standard tests. I also had a laparoscopy performed and a hysterosalpingogram. We were diagnosed with unexplained infertility. I was actually hoping for explained infertility but oh well. After several failed inseminations, we tried IVF. Went through the IVF injections and the whole bit and mid-way through the cycle, I developed some kind of infection and my dr canceled the cycle. It was devastating to say the least.

We forged on and decided to change clinics to a very well known and successful clinic in NYC. After studying my file, the dr in NY informed me that he would not have canceled my cycle as the other dr had; antibiotics could have been administered and the cycle could have gone on.

He also diagnosed my husband with a sperm deficiency and me with endometriosis. In June 2003, we were successful with our first IVF/ICSI try at this NY clinic. We had implanted 2 embryos and 1 took. We cried and thanked God for this wonderful blessing. We had 3 embryos left from this cycle and chose of course to freeze them for the future. We had a healthy 6lb 11 oz baby boy in Feb 2004.

In December 20005 we went back to the NY clinic and went through a Frozen Embryo Transfer. As others have said, not nearly as stressful or hard and much less expensive. Although our dr wanted us to transfer all 3 embryos remaining, we chose to transfer 2 and continue to freeze the 3rd for the future. Well, 1 of the 2 embryos took and in Sept 2006, we gave birth to a 9lb healthy baby boy! He did have hypospadias, which I believe was caused by the fertility drugs, but surgery at 7 months corrected it and he is perfect. The warning labels on the drugs actually mention a high incidence of hypospadias. I saw this in advance, along with many other warnings, but still went ahead. So we now have 1 remaining embryo and will hopefully try for child #3 sometime this year or next. If it doesn't work, we will just try on our own and if that doesn't work, we're still so happy with our 2 boys.

I do have some advice though that was not given to me. Before going through with IVF, please think clear and hard (with your head, not just your heart). There are serious ethical issues involved and I feel fortunate that they didn't affect me because I was able to use the few embryos that remained. But many people overstimulate from the drugs and as a result, have MANY embryos remaining, too many in some cases to realistically ever use. Please, think about the fact that you might have a lot of embryos remaining and whether this is really the best decision for you. I know it sounds selfish for me to say this since I went through it and was successful and do not need to worry about it since I only have 1 left which I will try for. But I feel I wasn't counseled thoroughly enough about the consequences. Sure, there is a ton of legal paperwork the clinics make you complete in which you discuss what you plan to do with any remaining embryos. But when you are as emotional and even irrational, as many people (including myself) are when going through, you are not really concentrating on the paperwork, you are only thinking about the baby that you want so bad.

So just please remember that the embryos that might result from your IVF are real as science has proven that life begins at conception. To have unused embryos discarded or "used for research" as the paperwork will offer as an option, is really the destruction of life. I know some people may not agree with this, but please study this part and research it before you go through with IVF and possibly create more embryos than you are able to implant.

I pray every night for people who are trying to conceive because I understand how awful it is. God bless you and know that He is with you through all of this.

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