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Jane's Story
Posted Feb 5, 2006

I am 34 years old and my husband is 35. We have been trying to get pregnant for 2.5 years. I am one of those woman who thought that as soon as I went off the pill, at age 31 that I would get pregnanat right away. I was actually worried that it was going to happen too soon. Ha, if I had only known!

I went off the pill, didn't get my period for a few months, had to take medication to get my period & thought once I got it then that would force my body to get back on track, I got it, still not normal though, went another few months with no period, but then after that, kinda got back on track. I saw my OBGYN and she knew that I was trying to get pregnant, but with a cycle that went anywhere from 25-42 days, to know when was THE time to get pregnant made it impossible so she put me on Chlomid (clomid).

We did that for a few months, to force me to ovulate, did a BUNCH of other testing to see what was going on and after 6 months or so, and tons of tests, she went as far as she could go so she referred me on to a Fertility Specialst. My husband was FINALLY asked to perform some tests himself (funny how when the guys have to do something it turns to "poor me", yeah right! :-) ) He had a very high sperm count and they moved well but their shape was not good. He also did a test to see if his sperm could fertilze an egg and that did not produce good results, so now we are dealing with issues of his.

My fertility doctor did some ultrasounds on me and saw a couple of cysts that she wanted to watch after. A few months later she did another ultrasound to see if those cysts were still there and one was. She wanted me to go and have it looked at by a surgeon, because she thought they looked like "chocolate cysts". Wellllllll let me tell you, a procedure that was suppose to be "routine and no big deal" was far from it. The procedure that my doctor said was to take 1 hour took 3 hours and I was left in SO MUCH PAIN! The cysts turned out to be fine, non cancerous, and it turns out I had some light endometriosis. He said that even with as little as I had that could cause a problem getting pregnant. So we were hoping that after that procedure, even with my husbands issues (cigar smoking has had to stop on his end because that could be causing some of his issues) that after a couple months maybe, just maybe I would get pregnant. Well 3 months have gone by and no pregnancy, so we are going to have to move to IVF. I just found out that artificial insemination is now not covered at all under our insurance so that would be out of pocket too, so if we have to do out of pocket, might as well as do the one option that has a been success rate.

I gotta say, ever month I get that period, it feels like a death. Like everyone who has gone through this, it seems like everyone and their mothers are getting pregnant one, two or three times, except me. I don't mean to be "poor me" but it is sooo hard and unless you are going through it, no one can comprehend the disappointment. I never thought that I would not have a family, a BIG family. I am hoping and praying to GOD that I get pregnant through IVF. It is going to wipe us clean in the old savings area, but if I do get pregnant, it will be worth it. It is our only chance.....this much I know.

Anyone going through this type of situation, or who has and has ended up with success, please let me know. I gotta keep up the hope. Also, does IVF hurt? I am somewhat afraid of pain after my last procedure that was suppose to be no big deal, and turned into a very big deal....so a little gun shy.... (see our answer below)

Good luck to you all trying.....I just gotta think, God did not give me this body to produce a baby if I was not meant too....would he?? :-)

Thanks for reading!

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Jane, as one who went through IVF 5 times, and frozen embryo transfer once (see Rachel's story), the process of IVF is long and it can be stressful. I had valium once during the egg retrieval and the other four times, it was performed with general anesthesia. I didn't find it to be painful - I just felt sore afterwards for a few days. I'm sure different women have different experiences, but overall it is not thought of as a painful procedure.

Good luck, keep us posted!

 

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