Posted Feb 5, 2006
I am 34 years old and my husband is 35.
We have been trying to get pregnant for 2.5 years. I
am one of those woman who thought that as soon as I
went off the pill, at age 31 that I would get pregnanat
right away. I was actually worried that it was going
to happen too soon. Ha, if I had only known!
I went off the pill, didn't get my period
for a few months, had to take medication to get my period
& thought once I got it then that would force my
body to get back on track, I got it, still not normal
though, went another few months with no period, but
then after that, kinda got back on track. I saw my OBGYN
and she knew that I was trying to get pregnant, but
with a cycle that went anywhere from 25-42 days, to
know when was THE time to get pregnant made it impossible
so she put me on Chlomid (clomid).
We did that for a few months, to force
me to ovulate, did a BUNCH of other testing to see what
was going on and after 6 months or so, and tons of tests,
she went as far as she could go so she referred me on
to a Fertility Specialst. My husband was FINALLY asked
to perform some tests himself (funny how when the guys
have to do something it turns to "poor me",
yeah right! :-) ) He had a very high sperm count and
they moved well but their shape was not good. He also
did a test to see if his sperm could fertilze an egg
and that did not produce good results, so now we are
dealing with issues of his.
My fertility doctor did some ultrasounds
on me and saw a couple of cysts that she wanted to watch
after. A few months later she did another ultrasound
to see if those cysts were still there and one was.
She wanted me to go and have it looked at by a surgeon,
because she thought they looked like "chocolate
cysts". Wellllllll let me tell you, a procedure
that was suppose to be "routine and no big deal"
was far from it. The procedure that my doctor said was
to take 1 hour took 3 hours and I was left in SO MUCH
PAIN! The cysts turned out to be fine, non cancerous,
and it turns out I had some light endometriosis.
He said that even with as little as I had that could
cause a problem getting pregnant. So we were hoping
that after that procedure, even with my husbands issues
(cigar smoking has had to stop on his end because that
could be causing some of his issues) that after a couple
months maybe, just maybe I would get pregnant. Well
3 months have gone by and no pregnancy, so we are going
to have to move to IVF.
I just found out that artificial
insemination is now not covered at all under our
insurance so that would be out of pocket too, so if
we have to do out of pocket, might as well as do the
one option that has a been success rate.
I gotta say, ever month I get that period, it feels
like a death. Like everyone who has gone through this,
it seems like everyone and their mothers are getting
pregnant one, two or three times, except me. I don't
mean to be "poor me" but it is sooo hard
and unless you are going through it, no one can comprehend
the disappointment. I never thought that I would not
have a family, a BIG family. I am hoping and praying
to GOD that I get pregnant through IVF. It is going
to wipe us clean in the old savings area, but if I do
get pregnant, it will be worth it. It is our only chance.....this
much I know.
Anyone going through this type of situation, or who
has and has ended up with success, please let me know.
I gotta keep up the hope. Also, does IVF hurt? I am
somewhat afraid of pain after my last procedure that
was suppose to be no big deal, and turned into a very
big deal....so a little gun shy.... (see our
Good luck to you all trying.....I just gotta think,
God did not give me this body to produce a baby if I
was not meant too....would he?? :-)
Thanks for reading!
Jane, as one who went through IVF 5 times, and frozen
embryo transfer once (see Rachel's
story), the process
of IVF is long and it can be stressful. I had valium
once during the egg retrieval and the other four times,
it was performed with general anesthesia. I didn't find
it to be painful - I just felt sore afterwards for a
few days. I'm sure different women have different experiences,
but overall it is not thought of as a painful procedure.
Good luck, keep us posted!