Posted April 16, 2006
I met my husband 8 years ago. I had 2
children from a previous marriage. When we decided to
get married we had big plans on extending our family.
With my husband being Lebanese, a big family is traditional.
We tried for 8 months and I knew I had scar tissue in
my tubes, so when we didnt get pregnant my doctor told
us to go straight to invitro.
We made the appt and to our amazement
we found out it was my husband who had the infertility.
He has 100% antibodies on his sperm so conceiving naturally
would never happen. We didn't waste anytime starting
the invitro process. We had to do icsi
because of his antibodies. We started the treatment
in September 2004 and everything was going great. We
went for the retrieval and found out I had 38 eggs.
The doctor wanted to cancel our cycle and let us come
back in 3 months to continue, he wanted my ovaries to
have a chance to heal. I begged him to go on with the
treatment, and after several meetings it was agreed
to transfer only 1 embryo.
Over the next 2 weeks I was convinced
the transfer didn't take as I had no symptoms
of pregnancy. With my 2 daughters I was sick the
minute I got pregnant it seemed. I decided to do a home
pregnancy test and to my amazment it was positive. I
was so excited and happy as was my husband.
Three weeks later, my husband's father
(who meant the world to us) fell in our home putting
up insulation in the garage. He died instantly. I was
the unlucky one to find him. This baby we were carring
would have been his first grandchild and that's all
he ever prayed for. I thought with the shock of finding
him that I would lose the baby, but on June 5, 2005
our beautiful son came into this world - 4 weeks early
but very healthy. Thank God we were so persistent to
going ahead with the transfer, as my father-in-law at
least died knowing he was going to be a grandpa. We
buried him with the picture of the 8 cell embryo that
was given to us the day of the transfer. This way he
would always be close to his grandchild.
Our son is now 10 months old and has so
much of his grandfather in him. I say my father-in-law's
soul went into my son the day he died. Our baby is the
smile on everyone's faces, he is the healing in our
hearts and although the pain is still so very fresh
I know that God was on our side and our son is here
for a very special reason.
We are now doing a frozen
cycle, our transfer day is between May 5-7. We are
hoping to expand our family with another miracle. If
it wasn't for IVF,
our precious little angel would not be here today.
For all those people starting out, please
don't give up, miracles happen everyday, God gave these
doctors the gift to do what they're doing and when it
finally happens to you and you're holding that beautiful
child in your arms, all the treatment, all the tears,
all the frustrations were all worth it in the end.
Good luck to everyone!!!