I answered an advertisement over 21 years
ago. They were looking for a woman to be the biological
surrogate mother by artificial insemination.
After a rocky pregnancy I delivered healthy twin girls
on Christmas Eve 1983 (born at 28 weeks).
The agreement was that there would be no contact after
the birth. After such a rocky start, I was fortunate
in the fact that the couple decided to keep me informed
as to the progress of the twins. Although contact was
probably only once or twice a year I was never left
Sadly, 5 years ago, their mother passed away. The father
contacted me wanting to catch up so that the girls could
get to know me and my children properly. We went away
for a weeks' holiday (a "bonding session",
we called it). The girls asked some questions and we
spoke openly about the birth (their mother had been
open and honest about me being the biological mother)
-- a great credit to her. The end result is they don't
feel like I am their mother and I don't feel like I
am their mother. I feel very differently toward them
than I do toward my own son and daughter, but we all
get along really well.
After the holiday, their father and I got along so
well we have become an "item" and share a
very loving relationship. We are now planning the twins
21st Birthday for Christmas Eve.
I could never have dreamed it could end up like this.