Surrogacy - Questions to Ask a Surrogate
Deciding to have a surrogate
mother carry your baby is sometimes the only option
for having a biological child. The decision and process
are seldom easy and involve a lot of doubts and questions.
Here are some questions you might want
to ask a potential gestational surrogate (questions
for a traditional surrogate would include more details
Pregnancies & Medical History
How many pregnancies has she had?
Has she had any miscarriages?
What is her medical history, particularly
in terms of previous pregnancies or illnesses that could
affect pregnancy (e.g., diabetes)?
Does she take any medications? If so,
Being a Surrogate
Is this her first surrogacy?
Why did she decide to become a surrogate?
What do her family members & close
friends feel about her decision – are they supportive?
What is her fee and what other expenses does she expect
you to pay, ie: travel, childcare, household help, maternity
clothes, life insurance (how much), lost work days,
etc. What fees (if any) are covered by her medical insurance?
Does she (and has she ever) use drugs?
Is she a drinker? Will she drink alcohol
during the pregnancy?
Does she smoke? Will she avoid second-hand
Pregnancy & Delivery
How many babies is she willing to carry?
What are her feelings about reduction?
What kind of relationship does she want
with you before, during and after the pregnancy?
How will she feel about your coming with
her to doctor's visits, ultrasounds, etc.?
How will she feel about your being in
the delivery room (both husband and wife)?
What decisions does she want to be left
up to her (e.g., medication during delivery, c-section
vs. vaginal delivery)?
Will she be interested to know about your
child as s/he grows?
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